Dear Rabbi Simon,

Unfortunately a friend and I have fallen out over a disagreement. The person concerned has apologised and I wanted to understand what, halachically, my correct response should be. Yes I accept his apology and have told him so. However, I feel reluctant about returning to the level of close friendship we had before. Does my failure to do so mean I haven’t really forgiven him, thereby putting me in the wrong?

Thank you, Jeff

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Dear Jeff,

Although it is proper for you to accept his apology, you are not required to reinstate the same level of friendship as previously. You should not, however, bear a grudge against him.

I hope this helps you,

Rabbi Simon