How can a Gentile mourn a Jewish loved one?

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Dear Rabbi Simon,
I was wondering how a Gentile can respectfully mourn a Jewish loved one? If there are no Jewish family members who are able to lead the mourning, how can a Gentile make sure that the deceased is respected and properly mourned according to Jewish customs?
Thank you,

Dear Deborah,
TY for your sensitive question. Depending on the details of the circumstance to which you refer, there may be a number of possibilities, but the most accessible and widely applicable would be to seek to insure that the kaddish memorial prayer is recited on behalf of the Jewish deceased. This well-known ancient prayer is recited as an act of respect for one who has passed from this world. Where the deceased has no living progeny (or even if s/he does) the prayer may be recited by another Jew.
There are charitable organisations who will undertake (no tasteless pun intended) this mitzvah on behalf of any deceased Jew, upon offering a donation to support their work. An example of this would be
The prayer can be recited daily for a year, or other intervals. Contact them for more information.
May we only hear of good news in the future.
Best wishes
Rabbi Rashi Simon

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Dear Rabbi Simon,
Where do you stand on quinoa (and the kitniyot ban) for Pesach?
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In line with other American authorities, I am in favour of quinoa. Although I reject completely the voices (mostly from Israel) seeking to abolish the ban on kitniyot entirely, IMO we do not need to include in the prohibition pseudo-grains that were unknown in the Old World until modern times. Best to buy with a Pesach hechsher though, to be free of any possible wheat contamination.
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