Practical Teshuvah Advice

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Note: This Q&A deals with a circumstance unique to the questioner, and the reply is specific to her, and should not be seen as definitive general guidance. Nevertheless, we have included the exchange below as a practical example of error, regret and rectification. So pertinent to the season.

Dear Rabbi Simon

I am very troubled by an accidental aveirah (transgression) related to a melachah on Shabbos/Rosh HaShanah (talk about bad timing): I inadvertently turned off, and then on (instantaneously) the light in the bathroom. As Shabbos had just ended, for a thoughtless instant I did not focus on Yom Tov which followed immediately (2nd day of RH). I feel awful about this, and I would like your counsel and advice.

Orli

Hi Orli

[In a telephone conversation, I told you not to be overly harsh on yourself. Your mistake was inadvertent and will hopefully lead you to be more alert and conscious of the sanctity of Shabbos and Yom Tov at all times (yes, even when leaving the bathroom). Teshuvah may accomplished through confession, regret, and resolve to not to repeat the transgression. Yom Kippur in a few days’ time offers the perfect opportunity for this. (Of course, teshuvah is appropriate, achievable and imperative at any time, not only on Yom Kippur.)]

Following our conversation, and after giving the matter further consideration, in accordance with your request, here are my thoughts for takanot :

  1. Light an extra Shabbos/YT candle for the rest of the month of Tishrei.
  2. Light candles 10 minutes earlier than the official time (not when Y”T begins on motzai Shabbos, of course) until the end of Tishrei .
  3. Prepare your home before Shabbos by putting a visible piece of tape or other reminder on any “higher risk” light switches. I would suggest doing this at least until Chanukah, the Festival of Lights.

I hope this is helpful.

בברכת גמר חתימה טובה

Rabbi Rashi Simon

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